6 Must Read Sex Tips for Giving Her An Orgasm
Nothing beats giving your partner a real leg quivering, back arching orgasm. But 20% of women never orgasm during sex and 75% don't hit the bit 'O' regularly.
Red on for Aura’s advice on how to change that, and make sure your partner has the best night of her life…
1. Listen
Your partner may not be sure what she likes, or she may know exactly what she wants. Either way, you’ll be able to give her a better time if you start a conversation about what she’d like you to do in bed.
Ask her about her the best way to touch her, any fantasies she might have, what you can do to turn her on before you get into the bedroom.
Listen to what she says and if you’re comfortable with it, do it. Don’t forget or assume you know better. Let your partner teach you about herself and her body. It'll be fun.
2. Don’t skip the foreplay
It takes most women longer to get warmed up than men. Jumping straight into penetrative sex is probably not going to blow her mind, and worse, it’s may be actively uncomfortable for her.
Instead, take your time to build tension. Enjoy the anticipation. Tell her what you’re looking forward to doing with her, tell her what turns you on about her, spend time caressing sensitive areas that aren’t her vulva such as her neck and inner thighs
3. Make sure there isn't any anxiety
One of the most common reasons women don’t climax is because they feel there’s too much pressure on them to get there. They get stuck in their heads and feel that they have to fake it to please their partner.
Try to help your partner relax. Let her know you want her to have a good time but if she doesn’t climax, you’ll keep learning about her body and work out, together, how to get her there.
4. Focus on the clit
30% of men think vaginal penetration is the best way to get a woman to orgasm. However, more than 50% of women prefer clitoral stimulation, and even those that get regular pentrative orgasms will still enjoy you playing with their clitoris.
Spend time going down or rubbing her clit. Keep paying attention to it even when you’re inside her. She can touch herself or you can touch her. Just make sure there’s constant clitoral contact if she wants it to help her cross the finish line.
5. Don’t say “I owe you an orgasm”
This is one of Aura's 10 common mistakes. It makes it feel like you think it’s a chore and it's a big turn off for a lot of women. If you think your partner isn't orgamsing during sex, simply talk to her openly about what you might try next time. There's no need to owe anyone anything. It's about having fun together.
6. Use a vibrator
Everyone knows vibrators make women orgasm, that's what they're invented to do after all! Vibrators are a great way to ensure your partner hits the big 'O' everytime and can be a massive turn-on for both of you. Aura’s vibe is incredibly easy to use, discreet, and feels amazing. It's a great thing to have in your bedroom draw, for when you want to really get things going.
*According to a survey of 1,500 women between the ages of 18 and 65 in 2017
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